Rihanna

I’m sure you’ve heard the news by now as it is circulating all over the internet.  Yes, Chris Brown and Rihanna, dare I say it, are Twitter buddies!  And wait for it…..who cares?  Apparently, the whole world cares present company included.  But really who are we to judge these two former lovers.  They’re young and I’m not certain about you, but at their ages I pretty much did whatever it was that I wanted to do, no matter how reckless, hurtful or wrong it was to anyone else, if it felt good to me I did it!

The real issue I suppose is how can we find it in our hearts to forgive Breezy for what he did to Rihanna!  I in no way, shape or form condone abuse of any sort.  In fact, I often wonder why her camp did not exact a swift and warranted beat down on Brown.  But for whatever reason, it happened, it’s over and now these two seem to have moved on!  So, why can’t we?

As the parent of children from a previous marriage I know how important it is for personal growth to forgive and to make amends.  NOTE:  I did not mention forgetting, because as far as I am concerned that is not part of the deal.  It’s when you forget that you allow the same mistakes of the past to creep by up on you with a vengeance.  However, I do know at one time I loved this man enough to marry and have children with and for that he is worth my forgiveness.  It’s funny though, I somehow became the enemy of most of my family and friends when I continued to have a relationship (platonic) with my ex.  To them I was the dumbest thing walking. In their minds I was just falling for the okie doke  and asking for heartbreak all over again. Not the case, in fact I am now happily remarried with another child and I still maintain contact with my ex.

Chris Brown

Although Chris and Rihanna do not have children together what they did share at one time was special enough for them to want to remain in one another’s lives, so who are we to judge?

I do believe that the nature of the separation has a lot to do with whether you are able to have continued dealings with your ex. Now there are a few points that I must make:

1.) pictures don’t lie.

2.) There are always three sides to every story.

3.) Forgiveness is divine.

I also know that as long as you fester resentment or anger for something or someone, it continues to hold power over you and your ability to heal.

Here’s the question:  If Chris Brown and Rihanna were to get back together how would you react?  Or would you react?